Empowering Yourself: How to Set and Maintain Healthy Boundaries

Setting boundaries with friends and family can be challenging especially when you are younger, but it is an important step in establishing healthy relationships. Here are some tips for setting boundaries:

  1. Be clear and direct. When setting a boundary, it is important to be clear and direct about what you expect from the other person. For example, if you don't want to be texted or called after a certain time, tell them that directly.
  2. Use "I" statements. When communicating your boundaries, it is important to use "I" statements. This allows the other person to understand how you feel, rather than placing blame on them.
  3. Be consistent. Consistency is key when it comes to setting boundaries. If you set a boundary, it is important to follow through with it. This will help the other person understand that you are serious about your boundaries.
  4. Communicate your boundaries early on. It is easier to set boundaries early on in a relationship. This will help the other person understand what you expect and what you are comfortable with.
  5. Be willing to compromise. Setting boundaries is not a one-way street. It is important to be willing to compromise and negotiate with the other person.
  6. Respect other's boundaries. Just as it is important to set your own boundaries, it is also important to respect the boundaries of others.
  7. Take care of yourself. Remember to take care of yourself and your own needs when setting boundaries. It is important to set boundaries that will help you feel safe and respected.

Setting boundaries can be difficult, but it is an important step in maintaining healthy relationships. Remember to be clear, direct, consistent, and willing to compromise. With practice and patience, you can set boundaries that work for you and your relationships.

If you feel like you still need more help, reach out to someone you trust. This could be a parent, friend, sibling - whoever is willing to listen. Or if that isn't comfortable for you, Youthline has an anonymous and non-judgmental helpline you can call or text. It’s like a free listening ear for you to vent and let out your frustrations. Free call the helpline on 0800 376 633.